Monthly Archives: December 2015

{Friday Favorites} The Personal is Political

For anyone who’s taken any sort of women and politics or feminism course, the phrase “The Personal is Political” will have immediate meaning. For those who didn’t, you can read about its origin and meaning here. Today’s Friday Favorites aren’t really about women’s lib, the title is more a way of saying, let’s get (a little) serious today. For some reason, this week has seen multiple things come across my social media channels that I actually stop, click on, and consume, which is rare. So, I’m sharing them here.

1. Presidential Candidate Meme


2016 is shaping up to be a wild, and potentially terrifying presidential, race. I’m not looking to bring politics onto this blog, so that’s all I’ll say about that. I’m bringing it up though, because this week, this meme swept through social media and what I found so interesting about it is that people on all sides of the political spectrum were posting it. The armchair sociologist/political scientist in me is fascinated by this, given the fact that there are a couple candidates who are really firing people up on both sides, but neither have mainstream appeal. This will be an interesting election to watch play out, as long as it goes the right way ;). Also, the guy writing it sort of looks like Trump…coincidence?? 

2. You’re so pretty…Don’t be so bossy

A really powerful video from HuffPost Women.

Posted by HuffPost Parents on Wednesday, December 9, 2015

This video, by the Huffington Post is burning up Facebook. I think this video is powerful and eye opening, particularly for people who haven’t read Lean In (see below). The instilling of gender stereotypes/roles in children through language is something I’m fascinated by. On one end, always focusing on a girl’s looks and telling her not to be bossy can pigeon hole her into a particular role, take focus away from her ability and intelligence, and hold her back from having the confidence to accomplish the highest level of whatever is she might want to accomplish – which we need her to do solve humanity’s most urgent issues…not to be melodramatic or anything. On the other end, what is the solution? Because, treating girls like boys is certainly not it. How do we embrace and encourage the amazing and powerful differences between genders while enabling both boys and girls, women and men, shes and hes and theys, to reach their full potential? That’s the conversation I’m interested in.

3. Radical Candor

Confession: I have never had professional feedback at any point in my career. At first I didn’t mind. I’m stubborn and independent and always do things right #not, and I’ve always bristled at criticism. Now, as much as I don’t want to hear criticism (or praise, which makes me equally uncomfortable), I’m starving for it. I’m starving for it because I want to know how I can be better and I’m starving for it because I need to give it and have no idea how.

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All of my bosses have generally given me free reign—and I genuinely appreciate their confidence in me. I don’t hear about it when I’m doing well, and if they’re unsatisfied with any part of my performance, I have no idea. I recognize now, that not giving feedback can both be a sign of confidence in me, but also a sign that they’re not either not invested in my professional development/the organization’s optimal operations and/or don’t, themselves, know how to give feedback.

From Radical Candor

From Radical Candor

Now that I have a team that works for me, I have nothing to reference—no role model, no mentor—when I try to give feedback. It’s a constant challenge for me and I’m often sifting through human resources websites looking for guidance. I want to give them feedback, both on strengths and opportunities for improvement. This article came across my Facebook feed from a former student who is now pursuing a career in HR and it really resonated with me. I encourage you to check it out and welcome tips on giving feedback!

4. Lean In – Read It!

If you haven’t read Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In yet, do it. It’s one of two books I read every year or so (the other is Andy Cohen’s The Andy Cohen Diaries…the absurdity of this statement is not lost on me). I don’t necessarily agree with everything in it, but it has had a major role in how I’ve approached my career in the last 3 years and how I advise graduate students to go get it, whatever “it” might be. And for the record, everyone should read it, not just women. 

5. Family Time and Cookies

I am so grateful we had the chance to spend last weekend with my hilarious and adorable and crazy nephews (and my sister, BIL, and good friends). We packed a lot into last weekend, which you can read about here, and made some amazing memories. Speaking of making amazing things – the paleo chocolate chip cookies we made this week have totally kept me going amidst a crazy schedule. It also turns out I completely mistold the story, so I added an additional update here.


Happy weekend everyone!

{Travel Log} El Paso

When you’re thinking of where to plan your next family vacation, El Paso, Texas is totally at the top of the list, right? It’s not? Huh. Well, over the last couple years, I’ve learned that this border town in the middle of nowhere has more to offer than you’d expect. My sister and her family have been living there for her husband’s job and it’s been fun exploring this city with them. 

A few things I’ve learned:
– It is quite literally a border town. Juarez, Mexico is just a stone’s throw away across the Rio Grande. Much of the highway runs along “the fence” and you can walk over a number of bridges into Mexico.
– El Paso is hard to get to – it’s far from everywhere (except Mexico). It’s a 7-8 hour drive to any major city and there are few direct flights.
– I have heard that the rest of Texas doesn’t really claim El Paso – the culture, landscape, and feel of the city is much more Southwest/New Mexico than Texas.
– It’s an eater’s city. There’s really great food, ranging from fancy burgers to Mexican street food to high end tacos. We mostly just go from restaurant to restaurant while we’re there.
– It’s expected that you speak Spanish. I don’t, at least not well, so that’s an adventure.
– The border is far more fluid than I expected. People commute both directions daily to work, shop, and recreate. 
– El Paso has great sunsets.

IMG_4056So, to our trip. My sister is suddenly moving back to Colorado in two weeks, and my friends Lindsay and Matt planned to visit her before she moved. The visit got bumped up to last weekend and flights were surprisingly affordable from NY, so TimTheFarmer and I hopped on a plane (with the antlers and advent calendars) to join them. We packed a lot into three days!


What We Did



You can drive or walk into Juarez. It’s my understanding that when you drive in, you can go to the fancier parts of town, but we walked over the Paso Del Norte bridge which puts you a few blocks away from traditional Mexican marketplaces. To cross into Mexico, you just pay a few cents ($.30, I think) and walk across the Rio Grande over the bridge. We were immediately greeted by many options for dental care and these traveling musicians.


My BIL took us to the main square with a 300 year old church watching over all the action, including multiple photo opportunities with Santa and his plastic reindeer (think deer yard ornaments adorned with Santa hats) and tinsel, lots of tinsel. 


We then walked to the market area with amazing fresh produce, lots of sweets and piñatas, and anything else you might need to purchase. We sampled cajeta (dulce de leche made from goat’s milk), some fruity gelatin candy thing, and chicharrones. You can’t bring any produce or spices back across the border, which was a huge bummer because I’m low on cinnamon sticks and everyone was selling them (along with cigarettes, which I didn’t need).


We bought a few gifts and then headed back to El Paso. To get back into the US, you need to pay another $.30 and then show your passport at the US border crossing.

White Sands National Monument


White Sands is about 90 minutes from El Paso, in the New Mexican desert, surrounded by mountains. It’s an absolutely amazing natural formation. All the sudden, you leave the sagebrush/yucca desert and arrive in these rolling white hills of shifting sand. It looks like you’re in snow, but you know you’re not and it totally messes with your mind. We packed a lunch, borrowed sleds from friends (you can also purchase them in the Visitor’s Center), bought some wax, and headed into the dunes. There are roads plowed throughout the dunes and you can drive to a variety of parking areas to explore the dunes and sled. There may have been a pants-less Benjamin incident.


We seriously sledded for hours. The adults and kids had equal amounts of fun, and crashes.

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By the end of the day, Benjamin was riding down from the top and going off jumps and after some initial concerns, Oliver made it about a third of the way up.

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On the way out, we stopped at the boardwalk which allows you to walk out over the dunes and look for critters. The boardwalk seemed to function as a race track for most visitors’ kids, and all the noise from the running on metal made spotting critters tricky, but Uncle Timmy and Benjamin sure looked hard.


We left with sand everywhere. And by everywhere, I mean everywhere. That’s all I’ll say about that. White Sands is really an amazing place. I highly recommend it. Make sure to check the website for closures due to missile tests before driving all the way there. Yes, missile tests. 

IMG_8970 Wyler Aerial Tramway

The Wyler Aerial Tram takes you to the top of the Franklin Mountains which sit in center of El Paso. We’ve tried to ride it the last two times I was there, but it’s been closed due to high winds. The winds were (relatively) calm this time, so we headed out! 

As we were driving up to the parking area, we had a hard time spotting the tram – we’re used to ski area gondolas with large towers along the route. This tram runs along a cable with no towers between the top and bottom – it’s a long, lonely line that makes you momentarily question your decision. Then, you remember you’re a Colorado girl 🙂 and hop on the tram. It’s a quick 4 minute ride to the top and you get some awesome views of the cacti and rock formations (and cement quarry) along the way. The platform at the top offers a 360* view where you can see El Paso, Mexico, New Mexico. According to the website you can see a third state from there, but I can’t figure out what state that might be. This is a great way to get a true sense of the vastness of the deserts of the Southwest.


Rubiks Arcade Bar

We went to this throwback arcade-bar for my BIL’s birthday. It’s full of every 1980s arcade video game you can imagine. The boys were all in heaven and TimTheFarmer took me on a tour of his childhood. It was a pretty classic gender breakdown here as the girls were all hoping for skee-ball or air hockey (which they didn’t have) and the boys were geeking out on all the throwback games. The girls sat at the table for a couple hours while the boys relived their mall-arcade glory days. Also, it should be noted that they have these horrific huge blended drinks full of sugar, fruity booze, and candy. Carolyn got the Talk Nerdy To Me … full of nerds. She loved it. I thought it was awful. And the server (who was really sweet, just a bit green), didn’t think they had silver tequila … um, we’re in El Paso, of course you do! The music was way too loud and the drinks were too sweet, but the boys had fun, so we’ll call it a win.

Where We Ate


We’ve eaten at Crave every time I visit El Paso. They use fresh, sustainably sourced ingredients and make simple, awesome food. All their burgers are great and their sweet potato waffle fries come with a legendary cinnamon marshmallow cream sauce which is ridiculous (I actually recommend the garlic aioli for dipping). I was heartbroken to be trying to stick to my nutritional therapist’s mold-detox guidelines i.e. stricter than paleo, which meant I had to pass on the new menu item: green chile chicken and waffles. The table shared tuna ceviche and crispy artichokes – yum! There were lots of burgers ordered and I enjoyed the roasted chicken and asparagus (and sweet potato fries…duh). They have an amazing brunch too.  Only complaint: green chile mac and cheese is a total let down. It has so much potential and is completely boring. Our whole table agreed.



This is an upscale Mexican restaurant with great tacos and is a favorite of my sister and her friends. They all say they go for the food, not the service which is notoriously slow and erroneous. We went to celebrate my BIL’s birthday and despite having a reservation, they crammed 10 of us into a booth meant for 6 people and then filled it with unnecessarily giant plates. There was no room on the table and I couldn’t eat with my right hand because my plate was balancing 1/2 off the table and blocking my arm. It was the most claustrophobic dining experience I’ve ever had and I couldn’t wait to get out of there. The table shared chips with salsa and guacamole and chicharrones and I sampled the pork belly, coconut shrimp, and fish tacos – all of which was fantastic. Unfortunately TimTheFarmer’s crispy red snapper came out 15 minutes after everyone else’s food. The food was delicious – it always is. The company was great. The service and seating was less than optimal. Oh, and there was an unnecessarily strong eau de tannenbaum wafting through the restaurant … it messed with the atmosphere, Mexican restaurants shouldn’t smell like a Christmas tree lot. #justsayin

L & J Cafe

Known as the “old place by the cemetery,” this is an El Paso landmark with classic Mexican food. They’re known for their queso, but I can’t report on that since I’m staying away from dairy. I can’t remember the name of what I ordered (it’s the kind of place without an online menu), it was some sort of shredded beef, and it was delicious. Everyone enjoyed their meal. My only complaint is that they don’t have a liquor license, so their margaritas are made with wine, which tasted fine but gave me a headache. Definitely check this place out while you’re in town. It’s real-deal El Paso.


Crisostomo is my sister’s go-to lunch joint, so much so that they know and love her kids there. It’s simple, authentic Juarez street food with tortillas like my grandma’s. Literally. There are grandmas rolling out fresh tortillas behind the counter. They’re amazing – the grandmas and the tortillas. Both the quesadilla and burrito options are delicious. I’m a big fan of any of the shredded meats mixed with peppers, tomatoes, and potatoes, and the lengua (tongue) isn’t bad either. On this trip, we were trying to stick to our mold-detox protocol, so we went with the barbacoa burrito with avocado, no beans or cheese. With some salt and salsas added, it was delicious! My sister’s boys love the beanie weenie burritos. Apparently there is a strong love affair with weenies in Juarez, so hot dog filled tortillas are totally a thing. Weenies in Juarez. That has to be a title for something.

It was a fantastic trip all around – so fun to explore El Paso with friends and family!


Also, I Yelp. See my other restaurant reviews here

And, Carolyn is the amazing photographer behind any of the sledding photos I’m in.

{Paleo Pantry} The Best Gluten-Free Chocolate Chip Cookies

Do you remember the episode of Friends where Phoebe tries to gift Monica her grandma’s chocolate chip cookie recipe because it’s the best recipe ever? The recipe was burned in Phoebe’s apartment fire and they spend the episode trying to recreate it from the sole remaining cookie. Then, after countless tries, Phoebe remembers that her grandma’s friend, Nestele Toulouse, gifted her the recipe. Yes, the recipe was from the back of the Nestle Toll House chocolate chip bag. Classic Friends.


For some reason I’ve always been skeptical of the recipes on the back of the bag (any bag). Perhaps it’s because I don’t want to trust “the man” or because I want it to come from some fancy cookbook or because—and most likely—I tried for years when I was little to make the perfect chocolate chip cookies from the back of the bag and they never turned out perfect, or the same, each time. #longestsentenceever

We started eating paleo a little over a year ago and ventured into the world of gluten-free baking. It was definitely hit or miss. Then, Jesse and E came to visit and brought paleo chocolate chip cookies that E had made. And they were AMAZING. They were moist and fluffy and the perfect thickness and absolutely amazing. I seriously ate 4 while we were sitting there after dinner. Somehow that’s ok, because they’re just made from eggs and almond flour and maple syrup #justificationrocks. And guess what? The recipe was from the back of the Bob’s Red Mill almond flour bag. #friendsforthewin***

ChocCookies3Jesse tried to recreate them a few different times and every time they came out like crispy pancakes.  We weren’t sure what the problem was, but I decided to make them on moving day … because I had nothing better to do. And, I figured out the secret. You ready?? …………. Don’t melt the coconut oil. It’s that simple. Using melted/liquid coconut oil seems to make the cookies too moist and they turn into pancakes. 

ChocCookies2These cookies are gluten, dairy, soy, and sugar free. Sounds awful right? But, they taste amazing, seriously. They do have eggs and nuts. To make them (somewhat) affordable I buy my almond flour and Good Life (allergen-free) chocolate chips through Thrive Market. Usually they don’t have regular chocolate chips, only chunks, so, like a crazy person, I cut them up so they don’t take over the cookie. 

I also buy my vanilla, maple syrup, and coconut oil at Costco because it’s far more affordable than the grocery store.


Two things: first, don’t be afraid of Costco’s private label. I used to have a client in the food industry who produced a high end product and they relabeled it as Kirkland’s for Costco. They said Costco is really particular on what they private label. Second, this coconut oil label cracks me up. The farm on this label looks like it’s from the Pacific Northwest. Really??? Coconut oil from the PNW?? Let’s call a spade a spade people. #wheresthepalmtrees

Anyway, here’s the recipe from the back of Bob’s Red Mill almond flour. It’s super quick and easy (I made these last night while dinner was in the oven) and the cookies have come out amazing every time!


The Best Paleo Chocolate Chip Cookies
Yields 15
Easy and delicious sugar-free, dairy-free, gluten-free, soy-free chocolate cookie.
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Cook Time
15 min
Total Time
25 min
Cook Time
15 min
Total Time
25 min
  1. 3 c. Bob's Red Mill almond meal/flour**
  2. 1 tsp baking soda
  3. 1/2 tsp salt
  4. 1/4 c. coconut oil (solid state)
  5. 1/4 c. maple syrup
  6. 1 whole egg
  7. 2 egg whites***
  8. 1 tsp vanilla extract
  9. 1 cup Good Life chocolate chips
  1. Preheat oven to 375°F Line two baking sheets with parchment paper or Silpat.
  2. Combine almond meal, baking soda and sea salt in small bowl and set aside.
  3. Mix coconut oil and maple syrup in a mixer or by hand until creamy but not fully incorporated, about 5 minutes.
  4. Add whole egg, egg whites, and vanilla and mix for 2 additional minutes.
  5. Slowly add dry ingredients to egg mixture and mix until barely combined.
  6. Add chocolate chips and mix until well combined.
  7. Place large rounded tablespoons onto prepared baking sheets, about 1-inch apart. Flatten slightly, to approximately 1-inch thickness.
  8. Bake until golden, 12-15 minutes.
  1. * 10 minute prep time does not account for crazy chocolate chip chopping.
  2. ** I tried to save money by grinding my own almond flour in the blender, but it comes out too fine/mushy for these cookies.
  3. *** I save the egg yolks for TimTheFarmer's breakfast the next day.
Adapted from Bob's Red Mill almond flour bag
Isn't That Grand?
***Update: it turns out Jesse actually made the first batch of cookies, and that it was E’s recipe which was not from the back of the Bob’s bag and did not even included coconut oil. How amazing is it that I totally made this story up in my head and totally believed it. It makes me fairly concerned about my reality in general, but that’s something I won’t dwell on. Jesse pointed out that my version is better because then it doesn’t look like she kept failing to recreate her own recipe. That’s why I put this way down here. I’m not overly confident many people make it to this point on my blog 🙂